Love is a beautiful thing. But being in love and waking up next to the same person will reach the level of boredom.
This is normal. I mean, it’s a forever “thing”.
What is not normal is when both of you decide to ignore the obvious signs and let it linger.
Yes! But what can you do to spark things up again?
If this has been your question all along, then you are just the right place as we will be sharing with you some of the most effective tips that will surely bring back the spark you craved for.
Get your Binge Mode on
Thank God for TV series.
Remember those days when we had one TV in the entire house? the family subconsciously sat together to watch limited programs.
The family bond was present. Unfortunately, TV is now a “get away” medium.
That shouldn’t be the case with you. Activate the Binge mode with your partner.
Watch movies together.
Many people don’t actually know that one can use the TVs as a tool to connect with our partner.
Select a show you’d love to watch with them. Just make sure whatever it is you are watching is connecting the both of you (which I’m sure will).
It’s a normal phenomenon
If you have been with your partner for a very long time, you’d probably thought about it at some point.
It’s not because you don’t love him or her.
Its purely because you guys are starting to be predictable and “careful”.
Not saying you should be reckless, but you’ve got to understand that putting in more effort is what you need and that you are starting to relent.
This is quite important. Most of the times, these better halves don’t even know what’s going on.
Remember, when the moment when both of you have to talk comes, avoid blame games and unhealthy words.
After all, the heart is not made of stones.
Go on a Trip
Wonder why most couples love going on trips?
It’s for this reason. As couples, you can have two different vacations.
One has to be with the kids while the other should be “strictly” for the both of you.
Going on these vacations are a great way to break away from the “norm” and predictability we talked about earlier.
Being in the moment while on these trips is very important.
Another advice, take away anything that can distract your attention while on these trips.
You’ve got to be in the “Now”.
If there is a place you’d love to visit, explore together.
Spend your nights in hotels or you can just go for the staycation.
Appreciate your partner’s uniqueness
Not doing this can be energy sapping. If your partner’s difference is not appreciated, it’s just a matter of time, that relationship is heading for the sea.
How do you celebrate your other half’s uniqueness?
Insulting them for being different or not do the things the way you’ve seen other people do is a total NO! NO!!
For some funny reasons, you may not like someone who is into banking, that doesn’t mean he/she (your partner) can be a banker.
Instead of finding these differences annoying, let it thrill and interest you.
Try out something new!
It could be in your sex life, a new hobby, skill or any type of activity.
If there is something you haven’t tried out before, it could be skiing, photography, cooking, running (marathon), dancing, taking a pottery class, kayaking, or subscribing to an art class.
What’s my point exactly?
It has to be an activity that both of you can partake in.
Bring it back
There is something you use to do in the past that you are no longer doing.
For a woman, it could be that you (as the man) usually bye her gifts on your way back from work, something you no longer do.
Or it could be something that you guys did together in the past, something you no longer do again.
Trust me, if it worked then, it will work now.
Don’t forget the date nights
Remember when you used to come to pick her up for late night movie?
So, why did you stop! Listen, creating time for date night is not a choice anymore, it is something you both have to do on a regular basis.
But hold on, if this becomes a regular routine for you, chances are you might get bored, which would be counterproductive.
Just like you are meeting yourself for the first time. pick a new restaurant every now and then, have fun and make sure both of you are putting in an equal amount of effort.
Love is a choice.
It is not loved if it’s felt and worked on by one person.
If it’s only one of you that is putting in the effort, then there is trouble.
You can always thank me later.
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